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Why mastering calm is the real secret to successful parenting
How calmness can help with parenting
Fredo C
December 02, 2023
Parenthood is a journey. There are going to be a lot of highs and lows. The important things you need to manage is keeping calm when the things get tough. This isn't just about love. It's about mastering the art of the power of calmness. To bring to not only your life but your families life.
1) Fight or Flight in Parenting:
Snapping at kids isn't a failure of love. It's your body's alarm system. Fight or flight kicks in. It's natural.
Solution: Recognize the triggers. When feeling overwhelmed, take a step back. Acknowledge your emotions but choose to respond calmly.
Benefit: You'll foster a peaceful home environment, reducing stress for both you and your kids, leading to healthier emotional development.
2) Daily Calm Rituals:
Invest five minutes daily in peace. This is your armor. Mindfulness or simple breathing exercises can reset your nervous system.
Solution: Incorporate daily mindfulness practices like meditation or yoga. Even a few minutes can make a significant difference.
Benefit: Consistent practice leads to increased patience, improved mental health, and a deeper connection with your children.
3) The Mirror Effect:
Your mood affects your kids. They mirror your emotional state. If you're a storm, they're the lightning.
Solution: Cultivate self-awareness. Before engaging with your child, assess and manage your emotional state.
Benefit: A calm demeanor sets a positive example, teaching your children emotional regulation and fostering a harmonious family dynamic.Hormonal Balance:
4) Regulating Before Reacting:
Pause, breathe deeply, and smile. This isn't just a breather. It's a switch. Turn off panic. Turn on peace.
Solution: Practice deep breathing techniques. Before reacting, take deep, slow breaths to calm your nervous system.
Benefit: This approach can prevent escalations, enabling more effective communication and problem-solving with your child.
5) Relaxed Mindset Approach:
With a calm mind, face your kids. This approach is like opening a door gently, not breaking it down.
Solution: Practice empathy. Try to understand the situation from your child's perspective before reacting.
Benefit: This empathetic approach builds trust and respect, leading to better cooperation and a stronger parent-child relationship.
Challenge:
Each day, practice one calm moment before reacting to your child. Reflect nightly on the day's successes and challenges. Notice the change in your family's dynamics. Embrace calm, transform your parenting.
Quote
“Children are mirrors, they reflect back to us all we say and do.”
- Pam Leo.
Final Thought:
Parenting is an art. Calmness is your brush. It colors your child's world with resilience and understanding. Every calm response paints a stroke of harmony in their life. Be more than a parent. Be a guide. Be the calm they can turn to and learn from in the storms of life
-Fredo