95% of kids decide quit their sport during the ride home

Right now, with my son at 3 and my daughter just a year old, I find myself reflecting on their future involvement in sports. How can I, as their dad, foster their love for the game and not become a deterrent?

Here's my strategy:

Understanding the Car Ride Dynamics:

Every athlete, young or old, knows the post-game car ride. It's that enclosed space where everything feels amplified - the triumphs, the mistakes, the exhaustion. As parents, it's important we understand this setting. It's not just a ride home; it's a crucial juncture that can shape our child's attitude towards sports.

Positive Framing – Celebrating Effort:

Mistakes happen. But instead of drilling into that missed shot or failed pass, I'd highlight the chase, the effort, the hustle. "Hey, did you see your spirit when you sprinted after that ball? That's what champions are made of!" By focusing on their tenacity rather than the outcome, I aim to instill a belief system – one that values hard work over fleeting results.

Fostering a Growth Mindset:

Results are temporary; lessons are forever. My conversation would pivot from the conventional "Did you win?" to "What did today's game teach you?". It’s not just about fostering better players; it's about nurturing individuals who can face life's challenges head-on.

Easing Performance Anxiety:

Constant chatter about scores, points, or goals can build undue pressure. By switching my rhetoric to simple affirmations like, "I genuinely enjoyed watching you play," the message is clear. It's about the game, the passion, and the journey. However, this isn't about mollycoddling. I'd emphasize effort and commitment because, let's be honest, life doesn't reward half-hearted attempts. As the saying goes, "How you do one thing is how you do everything.’'

Challenge:

The next time your child plays, identify and vocalize three positive aspects from their performance during the ride home.

It could be their teamwork, their determination, or even a single brilliant play.

I'm willing to bet this small act will reignite their passion and commitment to the sport.

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Sports are more than just games. They are life lessons packed into minutes of play. As parents, guardians, and mentors, the narratives we craft and the feedback we provide shape our children's outlook not just towards sports, but life itself. Our words carry weight. So, with every critique or praise, remember: We're not just raising athletes; we're nurturing the champions of tomorrow.

-Fredo